Sunday, 1 June 2014

guarding the flame

Having a compelling reason to move to a new place is one thing - settling in and making it your home is quite another. The decision can be made quickly, but there's no rushing the process of growing yourself some new roots. Having moved hemispheres/countries/towns a few times, I reckon two years is a good yardstick for giving it a proper go. In that time you have to guard your little flame - the winds of change will always make you falter and doubt. But slowly new connections will be made, habits formed, special places found. Yesterday we threw open the doors, lit the lanterns* and had a party to celebrate two years in our house - old friends, new friends and neighbours. Moving to this neighbourhood was coming home for me, but Mr AP has lived west of the river for 30+ years. I knew he was taking a leap of faith for me, so I said I wouldn't ask him if he was happy and settled until we'd been here at least two years. 

So yesterday the words were uttered….

..and I think we're staying….

*I was hunting around for something to put citronella tealights in - can't stand it when they blow out all the time in jam jars. So I bunged them in the steamer baskets for Mr AP's old pressure cooker - worked a treat!


  1. Glad you have a happy home!

  2. Hello Bernice,

    You are absolutely right to say that one can move into a house relatively easily but making it a home is quite another thing. However,it sounds as if you have definitely been successful in gathering friends around you and feeling much more settled. Happy days!

    And, what a brilliant idea to use the metal baskets for tea light holders. They cast such a pretty light and are safe. We shall steal this idea if we may!

    1. Steal away Jane and Lance - it's the sincerest form of flattery!

  3. How beautiful is this post! It literally gave me the chills and tears! What a stunning photo of your lanterns as well friend...I would say that this is reason to celebrate! Here is to many more wonderful years to come! Nicole xoxoxox

  4. Glad that you are two years happy in your new home!! Love your tea light holders, they look like very chic expensive lanterns at first glance and do a great job. The way the light comes through the holes is lovely!! No more pressure cooker for these. xx

  5. Ahh, such a lovely post, Bernice! I agree, feeling truly at home takes time, and I am so pleased that you and the Mr have chosen to stay where you are.Being surrounded by good people helps. And the tea light baskets look wonderful! xxx